Thereâs a version of you thatâs been buried under years of playing nice. Of keeping the peace. Of making yourself smaller just to fit into rooms that couldnât hold you. You bit your tongue to avoid tension. You quieted your brilliance to make others more comfortable. You told yourself that maybe less of you would be easier to love. But the truth? They still left. Or they stayed and made you question your worth. So hereâs your permission slip to stop. Stop diluting your magic.Stop bending to...
9 days ago â˘Â 1 min read
This is for the woman whoâs done being the âgood girlâ The one who bites her tongue, makes herself small, and swallows the truth just to keep the peace. If youâre honest⌠you know thatâs you. Youâve been standing on this side of the bridge your whole damn life, looking at the woman you could be on the other side.The one who speaks her mind without flinching.Who says ânoâ without the apology.Who takes up every inch of space sheâs earned. That bridge? Itâs not going to cross itself.And every...
18 days ago â˘Â 1 min read
Letâs talk about the lie. The one most of us were sold before we even knew how to listen to our bodies.Be nice. Be agreeable. Keep the peace.Be good, even if it costs you yourself. I remember TOO many moments in my life where I chose being liked over being honest.My gut said no.My mouth said, âSure, whatever you need.âAnd my body? Itâs still remembering.... Thatâs what people-pleasing does. It makes you betray your own truth in the name of being âgood.â But hereâs the thing: What if the truth...
23 days ago â˘Â 1 min read
Hey Reader You know those questions that swirl in your head at 2AM? The ones youâre afraid to ask out loud? The ones that sound like⌠âHow do I stop people-pleasing without losing everyone I care about?â âWhat if I donât want to be the strong one anymore?â âAm I crazy for wanting more when everything looks fine?â Yeah. Those. Well, 'Sugg-Jess-tions' has entered the chat, my new weekly advice series where I answer your questions with raw truth, a little sass, and a lot of heart. Hereâs how it...
about 1 month ago â˘Â 1 min read
Iâve been holding Sacred Circle for almost four years now. Guiding, grounding, weaving women together in truth and tenderness. And while I always share in Circle, it's a different thing entirely when you're the one holding the container. Youâre attuned to every breath in the room.Listening for what isnât said.Making sure each woman feels seen, safe, supported.Tending the timing. Managing the energy.Thereâs a sacred responsibility in that, and itâs one I hold with deep reverence. But this...
about 1 month ago â˘Â 2 min read
We love to label things. Good job? Good stress.Toxic ex? Bad stress. But your body doesnât speak in categories Reader, it speaks in sensation. Whether youâre prepping for a big opportunity or walking away from something that broke you, your nervous system reacts the same way: Your heart races.Your breath shortens.Your shoulders creep up toward your ears. Thatâs survival mode. And it doesnât care about context. Hereâs what that means: Success can burn you out just as fast as heartbreak can....
about 2 months ago â˘Â 1 min read
Hey Reader Letâs get straight to it: When you start doing whatâs best for yourself, you're going to piss people off. Do it anyway. Choosing yourself is going to rattle some cages. Youâll make decisions that feel damn good for your nervous systemâbut inconvenient for someone elseâs expectations. And guess what? Thatâs not your problem. Do it anyway. Youâre not here to be palatable.Youâre not here to play small.Youâre not here to abandon yourself so someone else can stay comfortable. Youâre...
about 2 months ago â˘Â 1 min read
Hey Reader, Coming in hot, as I have something on my heart (and thought you may need to hear it, too): You do not owe your parentsâor anyone elseâa relationship just because they share your blood. I hear all the time, âYou only get one mom.â And? I'm her only daughter. So many of us were taught that honoring our parents meant sacrificing ourselves. That unconditional love meant accepting emotional manipulation, guilt trips, boundary violations, or silence where there shouldâve been safety....
2 months ago â˘Â 1 min read
Letâs talk about discernment. Someone recently said to me: âI feel naive when it comes to people. I always assume the best, trust quickly, and then get blindsided. I donât want to be cynical⌠but I also donât want to keep getting hurt.â It's important to know that you're likely not naive, but heart-forward. If you lead with hope, trust, and an open heart, it's something to change... but protect. Because yeah⌠it can sting when people arenât as intentional, honest, or aligned as you are....
2 months ago â˘Â 1 min read