Reader, 10 out of 10 recommend not waiting to do the things you want to do just because youāre afraid you wonāt have anyone to do them with. Weekssss ago I knew I wanted to see "Wuthering Heights", and I wanted to see it when I wanted to see it. I didnāt want to plan around anyone else. I just wanted a day to myself and didnāt care how that might look to anyone on the outside. When I went to grab a ticket, I noticed something that made me laugh. Almost every seat that had been chosen was a...
12 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Good morning, Reader When I realized that Iām entire personality was almost entirely made up of old programming/beliefs or a response to ADHD/CPTSD, I decided to make a pact with myself: Do one thing a day that youāve been avoiding. Something. Every damn say. (Cuz I refuse to defined by some g*ddamn alphabet diagnosis.) Yesterday I was in a funnnnnk. Iāve been working since I was 15 (Iām going to be 34 in June), so NOT working is triggering AF. Itās forcing me to look at a whole bunch of sh*t...
15 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Hey Reader, Iāve been sitting with a sentence that still feels unreal to say out loud: I gave a TEDx talk. And the truth isā¦ I donāt fully know how to answer when people ask how it went. Because when you prepare for something this big, thereās the obvious work. Writing the talk, rehearsing it, & timing every word. But thereās also a quieter kind of preparation no one really talks about. The emotional weight. The life happening behind the scenes. Speaking about something you are still actively...
18 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
This is for the women who do it all... The moms. The entrepreneurs. The caretakers. The ones holding everyone and everything together like itās just another Tuesday... Youāre basically a superhero... but even superheroes need a place to land. Thatās why I created Sacred Pause, my weekly meditation and grounding group. Itās a 2-hour space in the middle of real life where you donāt have to lead, manage, fix, or show up āon.ā You just get to be. We will focus on meditation, grounding, and...
25 days agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
We talk about self-sabotage like itās some dramatic act. Blowing things up, quitting before it gets good, and making a mess on purpose. But the kind I see most often, Reader (in myself and in the women I work with), is quieter than that. It looks like avoidance. Not because youāre "lazy" (though I know you will tell yourself that). But because your nervous system is learning something new. Case in point: last week, instead of getting ready for my TEDx talkā¦ I painted my pantry. Literally....
about 1 month agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
You may have heard the news already, Reader, but if you haven't... In a few short weeks, I take to the TEDx stage at SUNY, New Paltz! Five and a half VERY long years ago when I decided to leave my career behind in EMS, I had a very particular ādaydreamā waiting for a light by our old apartment. It was me on a stage. š³ I didnāt know why or what I was talking about, but I envisioned it clear as day. The image stayed with me as I built my online business, worked with clients 1:1, and then...
about 1 month agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Iāve learned that if I donāt give my intentions somewhere to land, they stay abstract. They live in my head, or on a list, or in a passing thought I revisit when itās convenient. At some point, I realized I needed a way to be present with what I say I care about, not just talk about it. I needed something that asked me to show up with my body, not just my words. Thatās where ritual started to matter to me. Not as a performance, and not as a promise that everything will change overnight, but...
about 2 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
The holidays can light up your nervous system like a Christmas tree. š Family dynamics. Busy schedules. Pressure to āmake it perfect.ā Even the good thingsātravel, excitement, nostalgiaācan flip the same internal switches that go off when weāre in danger. Thatās your HPA axis talking. Itās the stress-response highway that runs from your brain to your adrenal glands, pumping out cortisol and adrenaline whenever life feels ātoo much.ā The problem? Your body canāt tell the difference between a...
2 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Letās be real, Reader. This time of year, everyoneās shouting ābe grateful!ā like itās a magic spell thatās supposed to fix everything. š But what happens when gratitude feels fake? When your nervous system is fried, your boundaries are thin, and youāre trying to convince yourself youāre thankful for things that actually hurt? Yeahā¦ thatās where The Gratitude Myth comes in. In this weekās episode, I sit down with my friend Carrie Kish for a raw, real, and slightly rebellious conversation...
3 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read