The 2-step reset for any heavy emotion


Reader,

You know those moments when an emotion hits hard: grief, anger, anxiety, sadness...and your first instinct is either to shove it down or let it consume you?

Neither one really gives us the freedom we’re looking for.

Instead of fighting your emotions or getting swallowed by them, try this check-in:

Step 1: Ask yourself: Am I willing to accept this?
Not “do I like it” or “do I want it here forever,” but simply: Am I willing to allow it to exist right now? This is where we honor what’s real without judgment.

Step 2: Ask yourself: Am I willing to let it go?
Here’s the magic: when you’re sitting with this second question, move your eyes slowly from side to side.

Why? Because this gentle side-to-side movement (what’s called bilateral stimulation) activates both hemispheres of your brain. It helps your nervous system process the feeling more effectively, kind of like your mind’s way of filing the emotion instead of leaving it scattered across the floor. Instead of looping in the same emotional cycle, your body gets the signal that it’s safe to integrate and release.

✨ Acceptance is the doorway.
✨ Release is the path forward.
✨ And this tiny practice is the bridge.

So the next time something heavy comes up, give it a try. You don’t have to wrestle your emotions. You can walk with them, honor them, and then let them move through you.

With you in the messy & the magic,
Jess 💜

Jess Leone

Not your typical love-and-light bullsh*t. Just my subtle (okayyyy, sometimes NOT-so-subtle 😘) way of calling you OUT & calling you BACK to yourself, all while reminding you you're not alone in any of this.

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