There’s a version of you that people rely on.

The one who keeps the peace.
Who doesn’t make things harder than they need to be.
Who knows how to read the room and adjust accordingly.

And for a long time, that version of you probably felt like something to be proud of....until it didn’t.

You probably started noticing how tired you feel after being around people. Or often you say yes when you mean no. How quickly you override your own needs just to keep the peace. And somewhere along the way, you stopped asking what you need, because you got really good at ignoring them.

You learned that being a "good" person meant being a manageable one.
A palatable one.
A version of yourself that didn’t take up too much space.

And now you’re carrying that everywhere.

This isn’t just a habit... and this is NOT just "who you are". It’s a pattern your body has learned to rely on because it feels safer to stay agreeable than to risk being misunderstood, disappointing someone, or creating tension.

So you keep choosing it, even when it costs you.

Pay attention to the moments where your immediate response is yes. Not the obvious ones... the subtle ones. The ones where you feel that quick internal hesitation and then override it. Because that’s where it starts.

Hard questions I had to ask myself looked like:
​-Where did you say yes when you meant no?
-Where did you stay quiet when something didn’t sit right?
-Where did you take responsibility for something that wasn’t yours?

Because you can’t change a pattern you’re not willing to see clearly. And you don’t need to become a completely different person overnight... the real change happens in the PAUSE.

My hope is that in this awareness, you stop abandoning yourself in the name of being a “good one.”

This is the kind of work we do in "Victim to Villain", my three part series of survival mode to to self-led power.

This Series is for You If:

✔️ You always feel like you’re carrying too much but don’t know how to put it down.

✔️ You struggle with boundaries, saying no, or standing in your own truth.

✔️ You feel the exhaustion of constantly pushing through and are ready to tune in instead.

✔️ You know there’s more for you, but you need a push to claim it.

✔️ You're looking for other women to go this journey with.

We begin May 17th at Tea & Tarot in Clinton, CT.
(If you are interested in attending virtually, reply back to this email so we can make this happen!)

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PS: I also offer virtual/in-person events in CT, and would love to have you join our community.

X,
​Jess​