Let’s talk about discernment. Someone recently said to me: “I feel naive when it comes to people. I always assume the best, trust quickly, and then get blindsided. I don’t want to be cynical… but I also don’t want to keep getting hurt.” It's important to know that you're likely not naive, but heart-forward. If you lead with hope, trust, and an open heart, it's something to change... but protect. Because yeah… it can sting when people aren’t as intentional, honest, or aligned as you are. That’s where discernment comes in. So how can we become more discerning without becoming jaded? Here’s what I’ve learned: 1. Pause before giving access.​ 2. Watch consistency, not just words.​ 3. Stay curious, not cynical.​ 4. Trust your body.​ You don’t have to lose your warmth. You just need to guard your flame. You can still be open, just not wide open to everyone. This is the difference between softness and self-abandonment. This is how we stay kind and sovereign. With love, |
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