Not your typical love-and-light bullsh*t. Just my subtle (okayyyy, sometimes NOT-so-subtle đ) way of calling you OUT & calling you BACK to yourself, all while reminding you you're not alone in any of this.
When Walking Away Is the Most Loving Thing You Can Do
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Hey Reader, Coming in hot, as I have something on my heart (and thought you may need to hear it, too): You do not owe your parentsâor anyone elseâa relationship just because they share your blood. I hear all the time, âYou only get one mom.â And? I'm her only daughter. So many of us were taught that honoring our parents meant sacrificing ourselves. That unconditional love meant accepting emotional manipulation, guilt trips, boundary violations, or silence where there shouldâve been safety. But hereâs the truth that no one says out loud enough: Your parents arenât owed a relationship. Respect is not automatic, itâs earned. And just because someone gave you life doesnât mean they get to mistreat you without consequences. If you're considering going no contact, taking space, or even fully âorphaningâ yourself from toxic family dynamics, know this: You're not being dramatic. You're being self-responsible. You're not selfish. You're self-protective. And choosing your peace isnât a betrayal. Itâs a reclamation. It takes guts to break the cycle. To stand up and say, âThis ends with me.â If you wanna dive into this a little more, I did a podcast episode on WHY SELF-LOVE ISN'T SELFISH (listen anywhere you already get your podcasts). But youâre not alone in that. And you donât have to carry the guilt that was never yours to begin with. Love always, |
Jess Leone
Not your typical love-and-light bullsh*t. Just my subtle (okayyyy, sometimes NOT-so-subtle đ) way of calling you OUT & calling you BACK to yourself, all while reminding you you're not alone in any of this.
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