If you’ve watched Disneys “Soul”, you know the part of the movie where Joe realizes he doesn't feel any different after having his "big moment" he's been waiting for. It goes a little something like this: I heard this story about a fish. He swims up to an older fish and says, "I’m trying to find this thing they call the ocean." "The ocean?" says the older fish. "That’s what you’re in right now." "This?" says the younger fish. "This is water. What I want is the ocean." We often miss the very...
7 days ago • 1 min read
Reader, SEASON 2 IS OFFICIALLY HERE, and this week's episode is about the 'pedestal moment'. The version of you waiting on the other side of the thing you've been chasing for years... and what's actually waiting when you get there. 🎧 Listen to the episode & let me know what you think. X,Jess
20 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Let's just jump right in, shall we? 😂 There's one "thing" that's quietly on a pedestal for most of us. The promotion. The wedding. The baby. The proof. We tell ourselves the version of us on the other side of it will finally be the one we've been waiting to become. The kind of woman who doesn't have to keep proving anything because she's arrived. So...what's yours? 👀 What's the achievement you've been waiting on to become someone different? I bet you can name it...the thing you've...
21 days ago • 2 min read
Hey Reader 🖤 Real talk: if you've been opening these emails for the last few weeks, you've gotten a lot of 'Victim to Villain energy' from me. That's been intentional because I know that some of you *needed* to hear it. But I want to ask you something honestly: When was the last time you read one of these and felt seen...not sold to? When was the last time something I wrote made you put your phone down and just breathe for a second? Because that's what this newsletter was built for. And...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
You can spot the pattern, name the trigger, & explain exactly what needs to change. And still… you find yourself riiiight back in it. Am I right? 👀 Happy Saturday, I am here to wake you up & call you out (lovingly, of course)!! 🫶 Because I know you don’t struggle with knowing what to do. They struggle is actually living it, especially when you’ve been taught to prioritize being liked, needed, or “good” over being real. So we start there. We start with the gap between awareness and action....
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
There are seasons in life where things feel steady, and some where everything feels like it’s moving at once... A relationship changes.Your work doesn’t feel the same.You’re questioning things you used to feel sure about. Sometimes it’s obvious, but other times, it’s harder to name. You just wake up one day and think, “I don’t think this fits me anymore.” Those moments can feel unsettling. This moment came to me after I gave my TEDx talk in February, and it actually shook me to my core....
2 months ago • 1 min read
*GIRL*.... I couldn't make this up if I tried. Unsure where you land on the subject, but this show has kinda taken a shape of it's own. While some like to refer to it as a cult (aka: me, LOL), I have genuinely been changed by a show about two gay hockey players. I’ve been taking this time to unpack shame in a very personal, “where does this still live in me?” kind of way. And what’s been surprising is how subtle it can be. It doesn’t always show up as something loud or obvious, like physical...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Hey hey Reader, With everything that comes with this time of year, I’ve been thinking a lot about what Easter actually represents beyond the surface. Not the holiday itself, not the traditions, not even whether you celebrate it or not. The idea underneath it of growth & renewal. But growth doesn’t usually look the way we think it will. It’s not always this beautiful, blooming moment where everything suddenly makes sense. A lot of the time, it looks like uncertainty, questioning yourself &...
3 months ago • 1 min read
And yeah… I know I’ve been quiet. Longer than I expected, but that silence was intentional. I was pouring into something that asked everything of me… my TEDx talk. And in the middle of that, I didn’t have the capacity to keep showing up here the way this space deserves. This platform matters to me because I know what it feels like to hear something at the exact right moment and realize you’re not the only one thinking it. So I’m coming back, but not the same way. Season two is going to look...
3 months ago • 1 min read